Coaching for Emotional Eating, Stress Eating, and Overeating Patterns
You might feel fine after dinner…and then later in the evening, you find yourself back in the kitchen…even though you weren’t really planning to eat.
Or you tell yourself you’ll “just have something small”…but it turns into more than you intended.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and it’s not a willpower problem.
I help people understand and change emotional eating, stress eating, and overeating patterns by working with what’s actually driving the cycle underneath the behavior.
Not restriction. Not rules. Not shame…The pattern itself. Sometimes that’s through conversation. Sometimes it’s through more unexpected, hands-on ways of getting at what’s underneath.
book a free 15-minute intro session
We’ll talk briefly about what’s going on and whether working together makes sense.
Questions? tovaabelmancoaching@gmail.com
What This Work Focuses On
Together, we slow things down so you can actually see what’s happening in the moments that usually feel automatic.
We look at things like:
- what tends to trigger urges to eat when you’re not physically hungry
- what happens right before things feel “out of control”
- how to ride out urges without immediately acting on them
- the emotional states that make eating feel like relief, escape, or relief from tension
- the thoughts and meanings that quietly keep the cycle going
- small, practical shifts you can use in real time when the pattern starts
This is about creating more space between the urge and the action so you have more choice in those moments.
Who I Work With
I work with people who feel stuck in patterns of emotional eating, stress eating, or overeating and are tired of trying to fix it through willpower, rules, or starting over on Monday.
A lot of the people I work with are:
- pretty self-aware, but still stuck
- always trying to “figure it out” in their head
- frustrated that they can see the pattern but still get pulled into it
- especially stuck in the evenings, during stress, or when they’re alone
If that sounds familiar, this work is about helping you work with the pattern in a different way—not just trying harder to stop it.
How I Work
I’m a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and coach.
My work blends clinical training in psychology with expressive and integrative approaches to help people understand emotional and behavioral patterns more clearly—and shift how they respond in real time.
In practice, that means we:
- slow down the moment things start to shift
- get curious about what’s happening internally, without judgment
- build awareness of the pattern as it’s happening
- and develop new ways of responding that feel realistic in everyday life
This is practical, reflective work. It’s not about “fixing yourself,” but about changing the cycle from the inside out.
What Change Actually Looks Like
Most people don’t change this pattern by suddenly becoming more disciplined.
They change it by:
- noticing the moment earlier
- interrupting the automatic sequence even slightly
- and building enough internal space to choose differently over time
That’s what we focus on together.
A Different Way In
Some people come to this work because they’re specifically struggling with emotional eating or overeating patterns.
Others are more interested in understanding themselves in a broader way—especially if they’ve tried journaling, thinking it through, or talking about it and still feel like something isn’t fully shifting.
For that, I also offer guided experiential sessions that use creative, structured exercises (like working with language pulled from everyday life) to help people access patterns in a different way.
This is less about analyzing yourself—and more about noticing what comes up when you stop trying to figure it out so directly.
People are often surprised by what becomes clear in this process.
I occasionally offer small group sessions you can join if this work speaks to you.
If thinking about it isn’t getting you anywhere, there are other ways in.
Work With Me
If this resonates and you want support changing these patterns, you can start with a free 15-minute intro session where we’ll talk about what’s going on and whether this work feels like a fit — tovaabelmancoaching@gmail.com
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About Me
I’m a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and coach. I work with emotional eating, stress eating, and overeating patterns, helping people understand what’s driving them so they can change them in a way that feels steady, supportive, and sustainable.
My background is in drama therapy and psychology, and I integrate clinical training with creative, reflective approaches to help people notice patterns more clearly and respond differently in the moments they usually feel stuck.
