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Thoughts Are Not Facts

Not every thought that pops into your head is true. However, it is very common for people to buy into their thoughts and take action based on them. 

For example, some people believe a very low carb ketogenic diet is the only way to lose weight. This narrative subsequently directs the kinds of diet information they seek and rely on. When they get stuck and don’t lose weight, they try to further restrict carbohydrates or meal frequency, etc. They struggle to consider there might be other ways to adjust their diet, including increasing real whole food carbs and reducing added fat.

Other people have self-defeating thoughts about themselves. These can be related to weight, one’s eating behaviors, and one’s ability to successfully lose weight. There can also be painful thoughts about one’s loveability, likability, and self-worth. These painful thoughts can fuel emotional eating and create feelings of hopelessness.

I hope the connections between our thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and physical sensations is becoming increasingly apparent to you. This is one reason I suggest journaling/monitoring/tracking.

Today, notice when you are making interpretations about yourself, others, or the world/life in general. Consider that these narratives/thoughts/stories might not be true. 

Tracking

Tracking, monitoring, and journaling are hugely beneficial practices as you begin to change your habits and patterns around food. Our experiences are very complex. Tracking and monitoring can help bring your awareness to the forces and dynamics that might be impacting you and your tendency to binge eat or emotionally eat. The general framework I suggest is breaking down your emotional eating experiences into thoughts (including memories and images); physical sensations and urges; behaviors/actions; emotions; and context (where you are, who is with you, your larger environment). You can also use chain analysis to discover which elements of the above tend to precede your binge eating.

Another area you might bring your attention to is the amount of time you spend engaged in what I call ‘Diet-Related Social Media’ (DRSM). This refers to posting about, reading about, and searching for information on diet, weight loss, and food. How much of your day is spent on these behaviors? How much time are you spending thinking about diet? How does thinking about diet, reading about diet, and scrolling through diet posts make you feel? 

It might be helpful for you to take a DRSM break. You could totally skip DRSM for a period of time, or cut it down to an amount of time that feels reasonable and manageable for you. Cutting back on DRSM can be challenging. What are you going to do with that time? You might feel a sense of loss, especially if a lot of your identity is wrapped up in DRSM. Perhaps come up with a list of other topics you might what to research instead, or other hobbies/activities you now have time for. Use this DRSM-Vacation as an opportunity to discover more of who you are.

Creative Journaling Process

Journaling is wonderful and hugely beneficial practice for wellbeing. When we write things down, we concretize them. We externalize them. We get them out of our heads. We discover things, patterns, relationships, in our experiences.

I have recently started a 20 minute journaling practice blending tarot, Dixit Cards, Storymatic Cards, and a book of symbols. This is a very fun, engaging, creative, and insightful process. You can use this process either for personal insight and exploration or to create a fictional story. Here is what I do, primarily for personal journaling:

1. I have numerous Dixit decks (original Dixit, Memories, Origins, Journeys, Revelations, Harmonies). I have not yet mixed my decks. Rather than choose a deck to work with, I let tarot choose for me. I pull a tarot card for each Dixit deck and use the deck with the tarot card I resonate with the strongest. For example, today the card I resonated with was The Moon which landed on Harmonies.

2. I randomly pull a card from the Dixit deck. This allows the card to function like a suggestion in improv as I, through the below process and free association, relate to it personally.

3. I set a timer for 20 minutes. First, I ‘map’ the card. I write down all the elements on the card, including emotional tone, relationships, what I notice first, objects, strong colors, and any initial thoughts about the card and personal associations.

4. Next, I pull 2 gold cards from Storymatic to give me insight and ideas for characters/people, either in the scene or related to it. This provides context for what is depicted in the card. Deepening the context of plot, I pull 2 red Storymatic cards. The Storymatic cards are optional and I don’t always integrate them into my journaling. Sometimes, though, there is a strong ‘AHA!’ moment with the Storymatic cards and they really connect the Dixit scene with the personal.

5. Sometimes I go back to the initial tarot card and see if that adds anything to my Dixit card analysis.

6. Now I use my symbols book. You could probably use any book on symbols or dreams. These descriptions don’t need to be taken literally but do add inspiration as you consider the ideas various elements of a Dixit card might represent, especially in relation to each other, and that resonate with you. Again, like in improv, these function as suggestions.

7. I consider all of the above and how it might relate and apply to my life, especially to any current issue or concern, and I write. My current issue/concern can now be ‘mapped’ onto the Dixit card and all of the ideas and themes discovered through the above processes.

As noted above, this could also be used to create a super interesting fictional story, especially with more explicit use of the Storymatic cards.

Scheduling Activities

It can be very challenging to find time for hobbies, social events, physical activity, and down time in general. It is so important to carve out some time to engage in these healthy behaviors, especially physical activity. 

If the thought of this feels overwhelming, a first step might be writing down how you spend your time. See where you can make adjustments for hobbies, physical activity, and social events. What is a manageable amount of time for you? 

Look at your sleep: When do you go to bed, and when do you wake up? These times should generally be consistent throughout the week. If sleep is a problematic area for you, I encourage you to focus on getting better sleep because it is so crucial for mental and physical health.

Make a list of hobbies you enjoy. Your list could include current hobbies, past hobbies, thing you want to learn/try, etc. Next, pick one or two of these that are most interesting to you. Schedule when you’ll do these things, either some time each day or during the week. 

Next, consider your social connections. Social connection is hugely beneficial for your health and wellbeing. Here are some ways to increase your social connections: 

Sign up for adult classes (maybe related to one of your hobbies)

Take a class at your gym (maybe related to your physical activity)

Join a group— check out meetup.com and Facebook

Volunteer

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